Charne is the closest person I have to a little sister. She is actually my cousin's daughter, so we have a strong family resemblance. I don't see her close to often enough, but like most modern relationships, we're only a text message away if we need each other.
Charne is getting married next year and I'm thrilled for her. I'm sure to bawl my eyes out. I actually toddled down the aisle at her parents wedding as a flower girl at age 6, hair extravagantly did, parasol in paw, confetti boy partner with a gappy smile. Oh, to wear white tights again...
Someone told Kurt last year that, that he must enjoy the nice Charne for now, because once the stress hits, I will be a big stress ball and only return to normal once the wedding is over. He was right.
We were very lucky to have won the 'Die Burger' Competition which was a true blessing.
It is wonderful to look at flowers and dream about the next adventure with your partner.
What will it all look like? Do I use roses, proteas, ooh ooh maybe add in some baby’s breathe for the centrepiece? Colour schemes and too many Pinterest ideas.
It’s lovely and fun and then the bills come rolling in, panic sets in, pimples start appearing, you being booked off work for stress and don't forget the DRAMATIC weight gain because your body is in panic-shutdown mode.
You spend the day dreaming of that lacey wedding dress and the evening stressing about the money everything is costing.
Let me just say for all future brides:
1. Please WHATEVER YOU DO don't EVER show your family your guest list. It will cause indescribable chaos.
2. Pick a Maid Of Honour that is strong, patient, loving, honest, trustworthy and that genuinely wants the BEST for you because she is going to put up with all your feelings for the planning process... And possibly tell u when you are being stupid:.
3.Your fiancé is trying his best to understand:
Why is everything costing so much?
How come the bridesmaids dress colours are keeping you up at night?
Why does this seem to be all we speak about?
Where is the money to buy a house going to come from?
Why can’t he wear a baby blue suit?...haha
4. Families fight and money becomes the wedge between all of the relationships.
I am told though that once the day arrives it goes so quick that you wonder why you allowed yourself to be a ball of sticky nerves for so long.
I remind myself, or try to:
That God knows best, He knows the way my wedding looks and what we all wear.
He is the beginning and the end. He already has all the answers.
It seems so petty, but the smallest issues of our heart are very important to God.
At the end of the day... The day will come and go and everything will be fine, my marriage is more important than the amount of flowers and décor there is.
If it’s just Kurt and I, that’s fine too because this is about us and not about other people."
Read Charne's own blog post on the topic:
http://switch2talk.blogspot.com/2014/03/i-dont-know-anymore.html
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